Take the Trip. Eat the Ice cream. Ditch the shoes.

So I may have adjusted the saying a bit, but I prefer ice cream over cake and splurge on an outfit that I can getaway with kicking off my shoes in on the dance floor.  I’m a barefoot girl … so this is my motto this summer.

*original known saying listed below. You may prefer that one.  I personally like mine 😉


We’re taking the trips ! (Beach with extended fam was after Easter, Time for JUST US (me, the hubbie and the kiddos was just last week) in Florida (wrapping it up with friends intermittently and at the end!), and we’ll take the crew with us on a work trip w some sight seeing, etc., at the end of summer.  Now, I keep being reminded that vacations with the whole crew should really be called “adventures”, vs. relaxing getaway/ vacation. But regardless, good family time and memory making away from all the constant busy-ness that we get caught up in here is good for the soul (ALL of our souls under this roof).

I’ve been in such a fog trying to wrap my head around the schedule that never changed after I ended my aggressive chemo in order to move to a maintenance plan.  I’m definitely less sick and have hair growing back (WOO HOOOOOOO); however, it’s a whole new gambit of quirky side effects and chemistry games to get all 3 forms of indefinite treatment at just the right level for me. Not to mention how much I want to have a 2 year old tantrum from time to time just because I can if I want to!!  (insert super whiney no-nap toddler voice) “They’re not the boss of me!!”  (Although I really better listen, I know. I know. Ugh.)

When we try to just wing it at home, even if we try to not make a bunch of commitments, life just gets busy.  Especially life with a family of seven with a mom that’s still taking daily targeted therapy pills, monthly big mamma- jamma shots, and targeted therapy infusions every few weeks.  Summer fun in the sun at home, can so easily get thwarted by a treatment or a run to the ER (it happens.  Used to be for kid injuries, now it’s mom and her random quirks).  (feel free to eye roll as I whined.  Yes, I could “take some cheese with that whine”- as my parents would often joke with us as kids.).  


Nope. Parents and Cancer patients don’t get days off.

And with every moment that I even begin the first part of a whine, I’m reminded of all the prayer intentions that I offer up my treatments, my side effects, my gratitude to have a so many second chances to fight to live this life again.  We all have our “cancers”.  Whether they be medical, financial, personal loss, relational… we’ve got ’em.  There’s no need to compare, they’re all real, and we all have what we can handle on our plates, and they’re no joke.  I’m grateful for the opportunity to offer up my cross for the crosses that others bear.  I just wish I so many so that I loved didn’t have to bear such pain.  If it was up to me, I’d gladly take it all in this big hit of my diagnosis.

Meanwhile,  I know that God wants us to not just bear our cross, but he wants us to feel it’s glory.  he wants us to feel the life that the cross can bring, too.  In these sweet moments that he gives us with each breath that we’re given, we need to live.  So, we “take the trip, eat the ice cream, ditch the shoes!”

If there’s anything that I’ve learned with the busy-ness of life, it’s that it’s unpredictable.

Work hard. Pray hard.  PLAY HARD.   That’s what I’m trying to do here.  The achy joint pains that I have now, the wierd bouts of stomach issues, and the ridiculous fatigue that, my kids all know, rarely lets me stay awake for a full family movie are for the birds.  (Sorry birds, I don’t know who made that saying up!). Yet, they’re part of me now, they’re part of my new life of living with cancer.    I’m tweaking what I eat and drink, trying new supplements and shakes, etc.,  to alleviate what I can of those “quirks that send me to the ER”.  But in the meantime,  I’ve reread a few posts here on my blog and watched a random video from time to time of myself telling others:

“I don’t want to SURVIVE!   I want to LIVE!! I want to ROCK!”


I said that.  It baffles me to watch myself bald or wearing a chemo beanie, kicking ass butt 😉 and taking names without a flinch.  Who is that girl?  Oh, yeah… that’s me.   What a fool I’d be if I didn’t carry out what I told myself and GOD that I’d do if I “survived”.  I may be always fighting to be a SURVIVOR,  but in the mean time…

I’m gonna LIVE. I’m gonna ROCK. 

Why?  Because I’m so much more than a survivor.   I’m a wife, I’m a mother, I’m a sister, I’m a friend,  and I’m someone that is so grateful to GOD for every breath that He continues to give me and every extra moment that I have with my family and friends… that I’m not gonna waste this precious time.  I don’t need to do anything fancy or extreme, I just wanna go where my schedule won’t keep me saying, “Sorry guys, I gotta run to another appointment, I’ll play when I get back.” Or “In a little bit, Mommy’s tired. ”  Nope.  Not this summer.  Sure,  it still happens, but unfortunately, I gotta schedule some real trips to take us away and force us to go off the grid and look away from the phones and screens and have real “FaceTime” with each other.

So, here’s to living.  Here’s to loving, and here’s to not just surviving, but putting my heart where it really wants to be…  with the ones that it pumps for.  With the ones that it fights for.  Off the grid, finding adventures, and making memories this summer.  Here’s to SUMMER!


Takin on Summer like Friggin’ Chuck Norris! Boom!!


Below I’m attaching a slideshow of just a few pics of our first trip of the summer… 

***(thanks to a wonderful family from our parish who decided to anonymously gift us with a secret santa gift under our Christmas tree this year:  A week stay in Pensacola!  Which we wrapped up with a few days with friends in Destin, too.  The beach is my true getaway, happy place.  Ahhhhhhhhhhh!!!! )


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“Take the TRIP.  Eat the ICE CREAM.  And DITCH THE SHOES!!! “









12 thoughts on “Take the Trip. Eat the Ice cream. Ditch the shoes.

  1. I love you! Your faith and for the most part your unwavering strength. You’re right that we all have burdens. Not necessarily cancer but other health issues whether they be physical, mental or a combination of both. Your humor (and I know it’s not all the time) really makes me feel good.
    Please let me know the next time you are going to do a charity event. I’ll be in town until October and I’d love to get involved.


    • I’m hoping to get another event rolling soon! I’m just in and out of town a lot this summer. However, we’re still mailing out boxes constantly this summer, so please feel free to send us addresses of anyone that you’d like us to send a Buna Box to👍


  2. Love, love, love reading your blogs… We all struggle through so many of the same things WITHOUT that big weight you’re carrying on your shoulders and all those appointments. You carry such a heavy load so gracefully… It’s actually a blessing and a burden to truly know the value of your family time so deeply… Makes for some serious pressure (self-inflicted) to make each moment count… a new form of survivor’s guilt right?! For me, that self-inflicted pressure leads to big expectations for myself that I can’t always live up to resulting in a brand new source of frustration… like us Momma’s need more of that… BUT, I realize, and so do you, that the ordinary days are just as much when we do most of our living, and those extraordinary things we strive for are perks! Just remember, as I’m trying to, that every moment you breathe is an extraordinary moment! (Even when it’s a toddler tantrum one) … They all matter… Love ya girl ❤️

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    • Love you, too, Angela! Miss ya, Girlie. Trust me, I really get ya. There is definitely extraordinary in the ordinary. We look for that all the time. It just kinda happens. And sometimes, lately, I’ve needed to remove myself from the scene completely bc w so many of us getting pulled in so many directions, we need to have all plans cancelled and go off the grid to get that time. But the morning and evening snuggles, hearing them giggle, watching them just get a long together are some of the greatest treasures to me. I’m just as happy right here having a snowball with my kids and listening to them laugh together. Some of the best medicine😉👌


  3. Loved this blog. And you inspired us so much that…we are taking the trip. Seriously! You inspired us to cast out cares upon the Lord and take an unplanned beach trip to just celebrate our family. Thank you for your example of faith. We love you so much!

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  4. Buna – Finally catching up on email. Great post about where you are. It helps everybody appreciate the little things that are actually huge things.

    I laughed out loud at the Chuck Norris picture.


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  5. I’m so glad I saved this to read when I had a chance, which was a few minutes ago! Words I needed to hear and remember to live by! I had my curb ball thrown at me in the begging of summer, losing my mom, wasn’t prepared for that. Summer has been a fog for me. Thank goodness my kiddos have amazing friends with even more amazing parents, that have taken them on trips, play dates, and so on. Just booked a cabin in the mountains of Georgia on Sunday, and we leave on Saturday, was able to get my dad to come with us too! Guess we are going to have a true adventure. Your blog posts always inspire me, and get me back on track! Always praying for you, and your sweet family! Hugs and kisses!


    • I have been praying for you and your family all summer as well, sorry I haven’t been around more to help out.
      But please know we’ve been praying for you all by name.
      A little time off the grid with the family and your adorable dad will be good for the soul.👌


  6. So Happy for you and your family to have Beach Time!!! Nothing like the beach….😎

    I saw some of your pictures with my Niece, Kristy and your children and hers. So Precious. You are a Beautiful Lady Inside and Out. I truly enjoy reading your blogs and you amaze me how strong you are!!! God is with you and Always will be.

    My prayers will be Never Ending…for you and your family. God Bless.❤️

    Sent from my iPhone


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